Calm Parents, Happy Kids: The Secrets of Stress-free Parenting

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The basic premise is that kids misbehave because they crave your attention, so the best way to prevent misbehavior is to proactively slather your kid in a ton of attention. Once they've misbehaved, you again slather them in attention in the form of empathy until they feel heard and loved.

Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids is invaluable. But Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings takes it to the next level and makes it all come alive so vividly. The scripts This book delivers hope and help. Laura Markham brilliantly applies her respectful, attuned, limit-setting approach to sibling dynamics. Full of realistic The dirty little secret about punishment is that it doesn’t work to teach children better behaviour. In fact, studies show that punishment creates more bad behaviour. Not just that children who behave badly get punished more, but that children who get punished more will behave badly more often over time.” and coach. I love the list of what children learn when parents allow the child's feelings and respond with empathy! This book is absolutely phenomenal!another book. But the beauty of this book is that the layout of it makes it possible to start immediately. I highly recommend it. I'm convinced that if every parent took the time to read her books, the world would be transformed. Seriously. I'm not exaggerating, her peaceful parenting In this highly anticipated guide, Dr. Markham presents simple yet powerful ways to cut through the squabbling and foster a loving, supportive bond between siblings. You really can stop the fighting and raise children who will be friends for life. PEACEFUL PARENT, HAPPY SIBLINGS includes hands-on, research-based advice on: If you are the parent of more than one child, this is the book for you. Laura Markham begins at the beginning — the how and when to tell your child All parenting starts with re-parenting our inner child. Sometimes, we feel that we don’t want to raise our kids the same way as our parents raised us, but some particular behaviours just start popping up (like nagging, yelling, punishing, etc.), and it seems we have no control over it. That’s because some reactions and behavioural patterns were installed in our brains in our childhood, and if we want to break this cycle, we need to start with healing our own wounds. Mindfully. Here are a few practical ideas on how to do it:

This isn't another "techniques" parenting book - it's a way of life. This book isn't another book trying to find creative ways to punish your kids, but it's instead about connecting and having a great relationship with your kids. It isn't about being a perfect parent...it's about being the type of parent you WANT to be. I'd recommend this to ANYONE with kids. So, according to Markham, I should wait until after my toddler's 8 pm bedtime to even start on cleaning up dinner, doing the dishes, folding the laundry, making the next day's lunches, exercise, journaling, or interacting with my husband (if both parents are home, they are allowed to trade off paying undivided attention to the child, but not to interact with each other). This would get me to bed at 10 at the earliest. And yet if I am then tired when the baby wakes at 4 am, it's my own fault. I dunno, it's entirely possible that Section 3 has awesome advice too, but I just can't bring myself to read on. This book guilted me hard (hard enough to make me cry, actually) for not being maternally loving enough to conjure more than 24 hours out of every day, or for sometimes wanting to talk to my husband after six hours alone with the kids. sibling relationship throughout your children's lives. I know that I will highly recommend this book to all my clients.

Think about how you can become less controlling and more coaching parents? Write down three actions you can start doing today: one to coach your child emotionally, second – to teach how to behave, and third – to teach a life skill or mastery. So how can I recommend this book? Why give it 5 stars? Because it's an honest, well-written, compassionate roadmap for a relatively new way of raising our kids. And it works. Frankly, I think this book should be offered to new parents in delivery rooms. But ultimately a lot of it seemed to just heap on the guilt for parenting in anyway other than being nice and gentle all the time.